But the only way to make something happen is to go after it. To dream about it but to also take actionable steps towards it. To choose the frightening yes over staying closed in. It is not easy. Oh my goodness it is not easy. In fact it is terrifying and uncomfortable. It doesn't feel good when you are deep in that middle ground working through the muck, risking your heart, and taking the chance.
There will be times, many times when it will not go the way you wanted. You will be disappointed, hearts will be broken, and many tears will be shed. But through the hurt you will also be a little bit stronger, grown a little bit taller, and learned just a little bit more about yourself. New tools will be added to your toolkit and the next time you risk you will be armed with different options, prepared to take on the uphill battle.
We must risk. We must take action. When we stay small, cocooned in our own nest we never grown our wings and we never learn to fly. And as Deb Talan says in her song Big Strong Girl:
"anything worth anything takes more than a few days and a long long night.