so you are thinking of running a marathon

niece marathon

Last year at this time I said yes to running my first marathon.  I  had been toying with the idea for years but never actually got up the courage to say yes.  For some reason last year was different and without even thinking much about it I committed.  Once I hit the submit button on my registration form I knew there was no turning back.  I had to take this running thing seriously and I had to train.  

If you are thinking about saying yes to your first marathon below are some things you may want to know about training.  There is whole other list for race day, but I 'll save that for another time.  

1 :: Get yourself two pairs of the exact same shoe

You can go with two different colors, but find the shoe that you love and buy two of them.  You are going to be putting in a lot of miles and just like you your shoes are going to need to rest.  There will also be days when it is raining and you will be stomping your way through puddles.  Your shoes are going to need some time to dry out.  So get two pairs.  As you train alternate between each pair.  Don't save up one for when the other is all worn out.  

2 :: There are two types of belts that will become your favorite running gear {I wish I had bought mine sooner}

Number One :: A belt for shorter runs.
For this you just need something to hold your keys and cell phone.  My all time favorite item I ever bought for running was the Flip Belt.  It is amazing!  You don't even realize it is there and all of your stuff stays neatly in place

Number Two :: A hydration belt
On your longer runs the last thing you want to do is carry around bottle of water, but believe me you are going to need water.  For some silly reason I put off this purchase for to long and was trying to carry my water with me.  Half filled water bottles in your hand will drive you nuts for seven miles.  I even tried to use a camelback that I had which ended in a call to Dustin to pick me up because the straps of the bag were rubbing my on my shoulders and I started to bleed.  

A good hydration belt will get you through your long runs.  Look for is a hydration belt with a pocket to hold you other fuel - such as gels or gummy bears.  On your long runs those are going to be your go to!  I love the Nathan Trail Mix Hydration belt because there is a zipper pocket which can hold your phone and also rubber chords along the side to hold your gels.  

3 :: Be prepared to say no, a lot 

Running is going to consume many of your hours.  Friends and family are going to ask you to hang out on Friday night but you have a long run the next morning and will need your rest.  Don't feel bad about saying no even when they tease you {and they will tease you}.  Just know that it is only temporary and you will be so glad the next say when you are out there running with clarity and not exhausted from the previous nights shenanigans.  

4 :: Find some good music to keep you going, but also run without the tunes

With out tunes?!? Did I just say that?  Yes indeed because a time may come when you are seven miles from home and your phone dies.  There you will be in silence and you will have to navigate your way back by the sound of your breathe and the thoughts in your head.  Before you get to that moment take some runs without your music and soak in the silence.  You will be surprised that you can actually run without music.  

However, stack up your playlist with some songs to keep you going.  You are inevitably going to encounter hills and that song may be the only thing that helps you get to the top.  Find what works for you and turn it up.  

5 :: Add hills into your training  

They will feel torturous as you try to climb them but you will be thanking those hills on race day for the strength they have given you.  Me and Airmount {the hill I usually climb} are not friends at all but it is that beast who has made me strong, even when I first running up it at a snails pace.  

6 :: Running is a practice and your only job is to keep showing up

There are no perfect runs or a strict recipe to have the best run ever.  Some days you will feel amazing and other days just two miles will feel like torture.  All you need to do is keep showing up and putting one foot in front of the other.  Do not let the rough times get you down and celebrate the ones that feel great.  

7 :: Find a schedule and stick to it, you will be glad you did

Having a schedule will help you stay on track.  Unless you have ran a marathon before you will most likely be like me and have no idea where to even start.  So seek out a schedule, pin it to your wall, and make sure it fits the days that work for you.  You want to set yourself up for success.  On the weekends you will be doing one long run . . . if Saturday isn't a good day for you to do that then shift the entire schedule so that it lands on Sunday.  It will be so much easier for you to stick to when it works for you.  

8 :: You are so much stronger than you think you are

As you begin to train you will start to rack up miles that you didn't ever think you could run.  When I first started training running three miles was tough.  Then somehow I was running five, seven, ten.  It was incredible.  The training schedule helps you ease into it and you begin to see that you are so much stronger than you ever thought you were.  Be proud of yourself and celebrate the milestones when you hit them.  

9 :: Visualize the cheers, it will help get you through

There are going to be times when you are dragging and you won't even want to take one more step.  Visualize your friends and family cheering for you up ahead and you will be amazed how much motivation it brings you.  

Another thing I do, that I can't actually recommend because it is dangerous ... is close my eyes.  When I am running up a hill and struggling I close my eyes for a moment.  For some reason it helps me make it up.  But please, do this with extreme caution!

10 :: It's going to be challenging, but enjoy it

Training for a marathon is going to test you in ways that you didn't even realize.  There will days when it is freezing or down pouring and you have to get out there and put in those miles.  The hardest part is going to come in lacing up your sneakers and stepping out the door.  Once you are out there you will be so glad that you got off the couch. Remember each mile you put in will make it easier for you come race day.  

 

niece marathon

When I watched my first marathon in person I was blown away by the courage and dedication that each individual had.  It inspired me to want to run, but I never thought that I could actually do it.  But I did, and you can to.  It takes a lot of work and an incredible amount of dedication.  My biggest struggle was overcoming my mind.  When the little voice in my head kept repeating ... stop ... stop ... stop, I had to keep going.  And each time I kept going my mind became a little bit stronger.  And some how, some way I ran the NYC Marathon.  It was glorious and the memories from that day will live in my heart forever.  

Are you thinking about running a marathon?  Do you have a million questions about it?  Are you feeling a little scared and timid about saying yes?  Drop me a note at jbelthoff@gmail.com and we can chat.  It is life changing for sure! 

change

blooming tree

Nothing stays the same forever, nope nothing
We can hope and wish that it will
We can pray and dream
But in the end we have no control
Moments happen when we least expect them
And our life is changed, in an instant
Most times we do not see it coming
Like a flash of lighting it strikes
Leaving us on an edge with feelings of uncertainty
The darkness drags us down
And we are unable to see the light on the other side
But after the storm clears and the dust settles
We pick up the pieces
And find a new "normal"
We navigate the uneven terrain and discover what moves us
Yes, nothing does stays the same forever
But that is a good thing
Change brings about new opportunity
A chance to try again
A freedom to let go and really seek
It may feel like a kick in the gut
Yet it is the chains being unshackled
That allow us the opportunity to find what we truly want

front porch dreams

I dream of sitting down with you on the front porch
and talking about the things that matter most
Love lost and found
Stories not yet written
Dreams tucked away
Plans for the future
Moments of gratitude
And the struggles we are facing

I dream of looking into each others eyes
Feeling the pain and the passion
That comes from a life lived
Holding hands and listening deeply
Having the space to show up exactly as we are
Guard down, heart open, free to express the truth in our stories
Each taking the time to listen and see
Holding space for what flows out

I dream of the moment where expectations fall to the ground
Trust is formed
Love is flowing
Truth is brought forth
And compassion settles in
Yes, right there on the front porch
Where dreams are spoken
And struggles are set free

I dream of you and me
Sitting together

she said

She said to just take the first step
To go in slow 
Find my footing
See where each step takes me

She said to not feel rushed
Take my time
Listen to the sound of my heart
And go in the direction that I am most called to

She said that it would all be ok
If I stayed true to me
If I let the world see who I am
If I stood firmly in my own decisions

She said to not allow fear to paralyze me
To keep showing up 
Push through
Be open to what unfolds

She said said that I can't give up
Not now, not ever
That I must always push myself through the struggles
And see where I end up

She said that I could do this
I listened deeply
Leaned in closed
And finally began to believe

national letter writing month :: don't stop writing

This is the last week of national letter writing month but I urge you to keep on writing.  It seems that less and less people are sitting down with a piece of paper and a pen.  I have just learned that the thing to do in college is to not even purchase a notebook to take notes in, but rather photograph the board after the teacher is done.  This makes me gasp!  

If you came to my home you would find notebooks lying around, letters tucked in boxes, and postcards displayed throughout.  I cherish the written word  and the time, heart, and energy that goes into it.  Writing is healing.  Whether you are writing a letter to yourself, a grocery list, or a thank you card you are taking  the opportunity to organize your thoughts onto the page and to let out and express the jumble that is running through your brain.  This is important to do.  

Many people have the impression that writing is a solo endeavor, but it doesn't always have to be.  Two years ago I gathered with some lovely individuals in my home for an event called Feast of Words.  Each individual that walked into my home did not consider themselves a writer, yet as the night went on and they each showed up on the page with the different prompts they stretched and grew, letting out emotions and feelings that they were clinging deeply onto.  It was cathartic and healing and it was in that moment that I saw how deeply writing can touch everyone lives, even those who do not consider themselves a writer.  

Letter writing provides you with the perfect opportunity to let someone you know how deeply you care and appreciate them.  It is also perfect for a quick thank you and a personal hello to a friend who lives far away.  When you sit down to a piece of paper you arrive with more attention then if you were sending off a quick email or a text message.  The page encourages you to slow down and be intentional.  Savor this slowing down and sink deeply into the feel of the pen moving across the page.  

Here are some prompts to get you going:

  • If I could tell you one thing it would be
  • Today I thought of you because
  • Remember when
  • I admire your

Pick someone you love and write them a letter from one of the prompts above. If you can't think of anyone to write to, write to yourself.  Just show up and see what flows out.  You may surprise yourself.  

And keep on writing!  The world needs to hear what you have to say.  

love notes postcard project #lovenotesjb

photo credit :: debra davison

photo credit :: debra davison

It is that time of year again where the Love Notes Postcard project is in full bloom.  Hosting this project is one of my favorite things to do.  I still remember the moment the idea came to life.  I was talking to Dustin about how I wanted a way to bring people from all over the world together.  Something easy and tangible.  I am a lover of snail mail and a collector of postcards.  When Dustin suggested doing something with postcards my heart opened up.  

photo credit :: michelle gd

photo credit :: michelle gd

What I love about postcards is they feel inviting.  The small writing space is less intimidating and you don't feel like you have to write a huge story.   One simple line is all it takes to brighten someones day. 

What I also love about postcards is how they travel through so many hands before arriving at the final destination and along the way whoever touches them may also be affected by the words because they are visible.  It feels like magic to me.  Touching lives on it's journey and you will never know the impact that it has had.  

photo credit :: Lindsay Waltman-Ostrom

photo credit :: Lindsay Waltman-Ostrom

When I first dreamed up this project I was only thinking of store bought postcards.  I never imagined the love and creativity that some people would pour in, creating little works of art.  It is amazing to see how much thought and kindness goes into this project.  

photo credit :: paula bogdan

photo credit :: paula bogdan

And because I did't want people to feel like they were left hanging with what to write I provide a writing prompt each week.  The words people share are personal.  They are filed with love and deep heart opening.  Sometimes people receive the words they most needed to hear, and that makes me smile.  A dear soul,  who has participated in this project more times than I can count has shared a bit of her writing from the first weeks prompt  

:: If I could tell you one thing it would be . . 

I invite you to pop over to Paula Bogdans blog and be blown away by her writing and her beautiful creations.  

I am blown away at how individuals open up to strangers.  How they pour their heart into the words and thought into the postcard they send.  It is true that one small postcard sent through the mail can change someone day.  The Love Notes Postcard Project is proof of this.  

Want to see more images of stunning postcards . . . drop by The Love Notes Facebook group or check out #lovenotesjb on Instagram.