finding the perfect notebook for your writing

This is my notebook.  It goes with me everywhere.  You will find it  inside my bag or tucked under my arm if I don't have my bag with me.  I write in the car, outside on my front porch, in bed, at my kitchen table, at the local coffee shop, in parks, at the mall, at the doctors office . . .  the list could go on and on.  Writing has saved my life.  I know that is a very bold statement, but it is true.  I turn to the page almost every day as a way to release, work things out, dream and scheme.  I am happy when I am alone with my notebook and a pen and even happier when I am sitting outside using these tools.  

I have always been interested in the written word.  When I was very young I found the card more intriguing than the birthday present.  I would ride my bike or walk across town to spend hours at the library.  And when I tried my hand at writing my own words I was in hook line and sinker.  I would write for hours in my journal scribbling my own inner dialogue or jotting down quotes that made me smile and then stuffing that journal deep underneath my bed so no one could find it.  

It was in my journal where I felt most at home for a long time.  I was able to write down anything and was never once judged or laughed at.  It was a private conversation between me and the page that no one else ever had to see unless I shared it.  Having this space gave me an opportunity to work through a lot of the struggles that I encountered.  

Once I began journaling I never stopped. It became a life line for me and is still a tool that I use today. My notebook is always with me there to catch any thought that pops up.  It is a very personal space and one that I cherish.  As I turn to the page to spill my heart and soul it continues to save me again and again.  

You do not need to consider yourself a "writer" to reap the benefits of journaling.  It is a very personal practice and I encourage you to give it a try.  For the next few Wednesday's I invite you to join me here as I will be sharing different ways and tips to get you diving into your own daily personal writing practice.  

First up:  Choosing a Notebook

Choosing a notebook is a very personal choice.  There are many out there to choose from and you are guaranteed to find one that suits you, however it may take some trial and error.   

First begin by deciding if you want lined or unlined paper.  I am a lined journal type of girl because without lines my writing becomes extremely slanted and I do not like the way that looks on the page.  However, your journal process may included sketches or art along with your writing and the lines may feel constricting to you.  If you aren't sure experiment with one and see how you like it.   Keep in mind that your practice will evolve as you dig into it and what you were drawn to today may shift over time.  

Next think about the size that feels good to you.  When thinking about size take into consideration where you will be writing.  If you are like me and will be tucking your notebook into your bag and carrying wherever you go a larger notebook may become to much.  Take into account the size of bag you use and what notebook would fit nicely in there.  Also think about what space you feel most comfortable writing on.  Do you long for space to spread out in or is a small pocket size notebook just thing that pulls you in?  Remember, if you aren't comfortable writing in it you will never use it.  

Lastly consider how plain or fancy you want your notebook to be.  Does a beautiful cover draw you in and make you feel like your writing is more intentional?  If so go for it.  You can find many stunning notebooks at the bookstore will all different types of paper feel to them.  However, maybe writing in something so fancy feels intimidating.  You may feel restricted to write in it because you do not want to mess up the beautiful book.  If so go for something that feels more in your comfort zone.  I  am drawn immensely to beautiful notebooks but for my writing I use a composition notebook.  I was drawn to composition notebooks because of their size, how easily they are to get, and their price point.  I quickly write through notebooks and purchasing fancy ones just doesn't fit well with my budget.   Plus they are no longer just the black and white marble covers that you remember as a child.  Now you can find them with many different awesome options, plus they are all the same size so they stack nicely for me when I pull them all together.  

Remember you have to do what feels right to you.  It needs to be something that you are comfortable with and drawn to so that you want to write it in.  Consider how the notebook and paper feels in your hand.  Don't struggle to much with the decision because you can always get another one if what you choose doesn't work for you.  See what you have around your house.  There may even be a notebook that you haven't used or only used a couple of pages from tucked away somewhere.  Pull that one out and begin there.  

Are you ready, go ahead . . . find the notebook that works for you!  Share below in the comments what your favorite notebook is.  What you love may be just what someone else has been searching for.  

national letter writing month :: writing prompts to get you going

photo credit:  Thea Coughlin

photo credit:  Thea Coughlin

It is National Letter Writing Month!  When is the last time you sent or received a letter in the mail, the real mail?  There is something so special about receiving a bit of love in the mail.  It is a delightful surprise that lets others know you are thinking of them.  

Yet sitting down to a blank piece of paper can feel intimidating.  You may not know where to begin or what to say.  Have no fear!  Below are a few prompts to get you going.  Choose someone you want to write to and begin with one of the sentences below.  See where it takes you.  Be open to what pours out.  

  • What I want you to know . . . 
  • I remember when . . .
  • Before I met you . . . 
  • My wish for you . . .
  • Together lets . . .

When you write from a place of love others feel that as they read your words.  Be willing to be open and let your heart be seen.  Do not be afraid to show that person how much you care about them and tell them how much they mean to you. 

Your words will brighten there day.  So go ahead, sit down and write a letter

happiness jar

We have rolled over into a new month and that means the opportunity to dig my hand into the happiness jar and pull out a slip of paper.  I am loving how this has turned into a monthly ritual.  I never know what I will pull out but I do know that it will be something that has made me happy.  What could be better than that?  

My happiness jar sits on my kitchen table and is a visual reminder to me that life is good, really good.  Even if I am having a "terrible horrible no good very bad day" I look at the jar filled with colorful papers and I instantly smile.  It reminds me of the moments I have created; the ordinary pieces that fill me up; and the unexpected that has brought surprise and delight.  All of that is capture in my happiness jar.  

Sitting down each night to write my one happy moment has given me the opportunity to really feel the moment and celebrate it.  Now keep in mind these moments aren't all grand and pretty.  Sometimes my happy moment is as simple as --- walking in the door after a long day at work!  Taking the time to write that down reminds me of how grateful I am for my home and how safe I feel here.  

Time flies by all to quickly.  If we don't stop to take it in and appreciate it we let it slip away even faster.  {click to tweet that!}  Taking the time to dig my hand into the jar gives me even another opportunity to appreciate all the moments in my life.  So I shake the jar up and dig my hand in.  

This month I pulled out: Going for a run at lunch time.  It felt so good to move my body {3.35.15}

It has been awhile since I have been away from my desk at lunch and getting outside to move by body was just what I needed.  Sometimes we have to push ourselves to what is best for us, but once we do it we are beyond thrilled.  The happiness jar is one of those things for me.  It takes dedication to show up to it, but I am so happy that I do.  The best part is that it does not take to much time.  I have the slips of paper pre-cut {which is huge for this unprepared chica} so all I need to do each night is grab a slip, jot down a moment, and drop it into the jar.  

Have you created a happiness jar?  Do have any rituals that you do with it?  

It is not to late to start one.  In fact you can begin at any time.  There are no rules!  Go ahead, find a jar and drop in your first happy moment today.  

national letter writing month

love notes

April is national letter writing month and I couldn't be more thrilled.  Letter writing feels like a lost art in the age of email and text messages, but it isn't something that we should let drift off into the forgotten.  When you sit down to write a letter you are saying yes to opening your heart and sharing details of yourself with the receiver.  There is an intimacy that occurs and the opportunity is there for you to open up a little more because there is no instant interaction, just a blank page for you to let go into.  

I write letters often.  Some of them never get sent and that is the intent when writing them.  I find it cathartic to speak directly to someone on the page and say all that I have to say.  there is freedom and non judgement.  It is a lovely space to be in.  

I challenge you to pull out a pen and a piece of paper and write a couple of letters this month.  To get you started here are some ideas of letters to be written:

  • To your parents.  Thank them for all that they have taught you and let them know what you admire most about them.  
  • To a dear friend sharing the way you remember one of your favorite times spent together.  
  • To your partner. Be steamy, intimate, and open.  Tell them one thing you have always wanted to tell them.  
  • To someone you admire.  This could be a famous author, actor, teacher, co-worker.  Let them know how much they mean to you and how much they have inspired you.  
  • To yourself.  Be gentle and kind.  Celebrate your accomplishments and give yourself a pat on the back for all you do each and every day.  

Once your letter is written fold it up nicely and place it in an envelope.  Add an address and a stamp and drop it in the mailbox.  You will surprise and delight the recipient and your letter may even change the course of their day.  

Who will you be sending a letter to this week?  If you are feeling up to it write more than one.  Maybe write one a day.  Share below in the comments.  

And tune in next Monday for more letter writing ideas.  Happy writing!

giggles from the couch :: letting go

There are moments in all of our lives when we are in a situation that we cannot control.  No matter how badly we want to change what is happening we cannot.  All we can do is choose to let go of the outcome and let the situation unfold as it is going to.  Not an easy thing to do for sure, but necessary because you holding onto it is not going to change anything.  

Click play above and take a peak into a situation that I recently went through that had me learning this lesson big time along with one other important lesson that I still have not yet learned completely.  

What do you need to let go of?  Are you in a situation that you can't control or have you set incredibly high expectations on yourself that are crazy?  Let them go.  I invite you to use the below writing prompt as the first step in choosing to let go.  

I have to let go of this because . . . 

Share your response to the prompt in the comments below because what you have to say may just be what someone else needs to hear to help them let go.  

Love Notes Postcard Project

The Love Notes Postcard Project is back and it is one of my favorite things to host.  First of all it is FREE!  All it takes is the cost of a stamp and a postcard.  Plus, the project is super attainable since it is only three weeks. All you need to do is send out one postcard a week based off the writing prompt I provide on each Sunday.  

Here is how it works:

  • I will match you up with someone
  • Each Sunday you will receive a writing prompt
  • You respond to that writing prompt on the postcard and drop it in the mail
  • Wait for the ray of sunshine to arrive in your mailbox from your partner.  That is it!

I choose postcards for this project because the writing space is less intimidating and when they pass through the hands of the mailman or postal workers they are sure to brighten their day as well.  

This round begins April 12th and I hope you will join us.  Click HERE to sign up!  

I would love for you to join us.  I have had people from all over the world participate and it makes my heart smile knowing that rays of light are getting spread all over the world.  

If you have a question about the Postcard Project feel free to reach out to me at jbelthoff@gmail.com